Celebrating father figures
As Fathers Matter, we acknowledge the important impact that positive, present father figures play in young people's lives.
In South Africa, 70% of children grow up in homes without their biological fathers. There are many uncles, grandfathers, coaches, teachers and community leaders who step up as positive male role models for these children. At Fathers Matter, we call these men father figures or social fathers.
What are the different ways to be a father figure?
Here are some ways to be a social father to a child who is not yours biologically:
- Relative: An uncle, grandfather, older brother, cousin or other relative who is invested in the well-being of a child.
- Mentor: Be a positive role model and mentor to a child who may not have a father figure in their life.
- Family friend: Be a close family friend who provides support and guidance.
- Co-parent: Share parenting responsibilities with the child's biological parents.
- Community involvement: Volunteer or work with organisations that support children and families.
- Stepfather: Marry the child's mother and become their stepfather.
- Role model: Be a positive influence and role model in a child's life, even if not in a traditional fatherly role. These include coaches, teachers, pastors, youth workers, etc.
Stepping Up: Becoming a social father
It takes a village – and social fathers are here for the fatherless
Being a father figure is about carrying the "essence" of positive
fatherhood into all aspects of life. When men step up as positive role
models for children who aren't their biological kids, it reflects the
beauty of community.
For over 30 years, Heartlines’ Craig Bouchier has been a fully committed father figure, mobilising community fathers to co-create safe spaces.
TIPS
We’ve put together some tip sheets:
- For men with advice on how to be a positive, present male role model for children.
- For young people to know what to expect and how to stay safe in their relationships with father figures.
